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An Apology – Am Sorry! Really?

Sending a plain apology doesn’t help much. It is important to know what is the action for which one is apologizing? What hurt the other person and caused the discomfort in him? Is the apology coming from the guilt voice or one is aware of the pain/sadness/discomfort/trouble that is caused in another.Often, when we see…
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Strong and Rigid Boundary

A great nurturing experience is like being in the mother’s womb. The child in the womb keeps kicking from inside. The womb takes the kick, expands a little, but, pushes the baby back gently, conveying the message: “This is your boundary! You’re not allowed to cross this“. It’s a strong boundary and a nurturing experience.As…
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FAQs on Coaching

What is the difference between coaching, mentoring, consulting, therapy and counselling?  Therapy and Counselling deal thru the past emotions, which aren’t yet healed and resolve the present issues. In Mentoring and Consulting the mentor or consultant guides you thru the challenge based on his expertise in the same field. Coaching works thru the present and…
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I Don’t Have Time

When I hear: ‘I don’t have time’, I take it as: ‘I don’t give priority’.  For ex:I am very busy, I don’t have time to go for walk in the morning, I don’t have time to watch that movie, I don’t have time to meet friends and so-on. You can fill…I don’t have time to…I prefer to use:…
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How Coaching Works

Coaching is a co-creative conversation and journey between a Coach and the Coachee to realize the potential of Coachee and achieve what he desires to. What does a Coachee desire?  It can be ANYTHING which is not working for him/within him/he doesn’t desire and he wants to move to a state where it is working…
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Sense to What Non-Sense!!

When we are in conversation with others, there comes a moment when we start thinking inside – “What non-sense is this guy talking!” or “He is so irritating” or “He is so silly” or “He is acting smart” and so-on…This is the moment when the whole conversation has shifted from ‘between two people’ to ‘within…
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When Something Goes Wrong

When something goes wrong, there is tendency to blame the ‘person’. The ‘person’ here would be self or the other. When the blame is more often on the self, it results in ‘self blame’/’self criticism’ and feeling low about the self. When the blame is more often on the other/circumstance, it results in ‘lack of…
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Separate the Person and …

Note the difference between these statements: “You’re creative” v/s “Your ideas are creative”. “You’re wrong” v/s “Your point is wrong” or “Your work is wrong” “He is great” v/s “His work is great”“You’re right” v/s “Your point is right”.“He is an idiot” v/s “His idea is idiotic”.  The difference is the latter statement separates the wrongness/greatness/rightness of a…
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Complete the Separation

In high school, college or office, while someone is leaving, a send-off is arranged. Same is true, when one’s returning and the relatives/friends arrive till bus-stop/station to see you off. Though this has come as a standard practice, these were opportunities to reflect, grieve and complete our thoughts, emotions about the current setup, from which one…
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Difference Between Guilt and Shame

The difference between Guilt and Shame. Guilt: something wrong at DOING level, the deeds.Shame: something wrong at BEING level, which is at the whole as a person. Ex: When someone says ‘I am ashamed of myself/you’. It is pointing to the whole person. And when someone says ‘I am/you’re guilty of having done it’ then…
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